The Post Father’s Day Father’s Day Post

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Just a little journal-ing here today, old-school, Journalspace-style, and very sparsely edited. Does anyone remember Journalspace? That’s where I had my blog before it was mainstream to really call them blogs. After MySpace, before Facebook, back in the early part of this (still rather young) century many of less trendy net writers were keeping “online journals” rather than web logs, or blogs. Sadly they lost a ton of data one day and many of us had to rescue our posts from google’s cache.

Blogging and Community

There was a certain level of community that was attractive about Journalspace, because we were not simply keeping web diaries, we were connecting with other people of like interests, via keywords, now called tags and sometimes served with hash (I’ve tried to develop a taste for it, but to be frank, I prefer bacon).  If memory serves me right, as it sometimes does, that’s where I cyber-met Bryan Borland, who has since gone on to publish a couple of books of poetry and become founding editor of Sibling Rivalry Press and the literary journal Assaracus.

Sadly there are very few people I’ve managed to follow since those days. But there is a similar community of folks on WordPress, as well as a larger audience of non-bloggers who find my spot here because WordPress has a longer reach, and much greater success promoting our posts to the the rest of the world, rather than just a little circle of journal-ing writers. There is a metaphor in this about modern poetry, but I’ll let it go for now.

The Timely Curse, or Hashtag Hell

So you noticed the title. Yes, Father’s day was more than a week and a half ago. Too late to get on the “trending” wagon. Way past time to hitch my stats to a hashtag star. Some web guru out there is thinking, if he wanted readers for his Father’s Day post he should have posted no later than Father’s Day. True. But this isn’t a Father’s Day post. As the title says, it’s the Post Father’s Day Post. And besides, you know what? I don’t care about the date or the day. In fact I’m bloody sick of all of this SEO talk that is all about timeliness and little about thoughtfulness.

You see, I was too happy enjoying my Father’s Day (which was celebrated more on Monday than Sunday anyway), much too happy to even pause the festivities to write about it at the time. But if now I want to share with you some thoughts that I have pondered on after the fact, the current web wisdom says that it’s too late.

The Carolina Theater, Greensboro, North Caroli...
The Carolina Theater, Greensboro, North Carolina, September, 2008 (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

I noticed this regarding internet activity on the recent death of Maya Angelou. I posted a reading and a few words several days after the fact, and by then the only twitter buzz, the only Facebook shares, the only mention at all of her was in regards to her memorial service on or about the day of the ceremony. It’s not the sort of thing you can know about ahead of time, but you damn well better post your RIP message as soon as you get the news if you want traffic to your blog, right?

I’ve seen it again more recently with the appointment of Charles Wright as the new US Poet Laureate, something I am planning to post about after I have read more of his work, and become more familiar with the man. In other words, after (and if) I actually have something remotely unique and hopefully interesting to say about it. Meanwhile I confess I have re-tweeted the NPR article and shared a poem or two on PalPage, but why should I feel an urgent need to write about it? Am I a news journalist, or a blogger poet?

Why have we got caught up in the insanity, the rush to post anything about everything as soon as we know about it?  Why are we letting ourselves get pulled by the tide of other people’s information streams? Ratings? Bingo. I think it started long before the days of CNN’s 24 hour news coverage, but that’s as good a place to start as any. Back then we loved to listen and watch as they speculated on what was happening, rather than reported it after the facts were known. Why? Because everyone wants to be the first. Everyone wants to have the traffic.

But have we lost sight of the importance of quality? Have we lost the ability to reflect? I have found myself caught up in this game myself, posting about poet’s birthdays and such, and I don’t mean that I won’t do so in the future, but hopefully It’ll be a bit more planned out, a result of pre-cogitation, rather than regurgitation. I have no desire to become a “curator of content.”

Dad’s Day & Miscellaneous Updates

Boy, I can go on, can’t I? But like I said at the beginning, this is old-school web log stuff, and I’m not forcing you to read it. Not timely, not tweet-able, but hey, sometimes isn’t it refreshing to dwell on an event AFTER the calendar date?

1522096_10202839489442904_6158584534248102290_nSo first, the Monday before Father’s Day. Well, I cannot quite fathom how this happened yet. I’m told this is what is supposed to occur. We care for, nurture, train, discipline and love the hell out of our kids, and one day they show signs of having grown up. And one startling day they stand before you in graduation gowns, smiling for the camera while you wonder where the devil 18 years went.

I’m proud, immensely proud, and as proud as I have ever been, his two brothers having preceded him in ceremonies just like this. He had a rough year health-wise, but look at the brilliant smile on that brilliant boy’s face. I’m honored to have been a part of his growing up. Humbled to have been called Father by all three of these incredible young men. Yeah, this was a great prelude to Father’s Day. And where did he choose to go out to dinner? Ha! Our favorite old pizza shop of course. Priceless (as apposed to merely cheap, and easy on Dad’s wallet).

The weekend of Father’s Day I worked at both the library and that other job. More than 38 hours in three days, and so was wiped out. After seeing the “Happy Father’s Day” message on PalPage (I love calling it that, and I confess it’s stolen shamelessly from Days of Our Lives), I called first my sons and then my own dad and made arrangements for my Monday off. Then I promptly took a much needed nap that lasted for four hours.

I woke up, snacked and finally watched the first episode of Sherlock. Looks promising. Then back to bed, for a Monday morning lie-in that I think was deserved. An early dinner/late lunch was had with my favorite three young men at a ma-and pop country diner at the meeting of two old major roads and two railways, now the home of a big Sheetz across the street, the view from our table-side window. Word to the wise: if you must go out to eat for Father’s Day don’t actually do so on father’s day.

The dinning room at Winngate was empty except for our crew and we were amused by how many state troopers seemed to enjoy frequenting the Sheetz across the road. They must have good coffee and donuts. We felt safe, and dang the turkey sub and vegetable soup was amazing!

Then a visit with my dad not far from there. Bluebirds, hawks, tales of deer being chased by the cows in the pasture. And also the realization that now at 83 there was no longer even a hint of awkwardness in my conversations with Dad. He no longer feels the need to instruct me on being a good father, on getting through life. We simply enjoy the time and conversation, the questions on what flowers the butterflies enjoy the most. Peace, and relaxation. That’s what being with him is like, finally after all these years. 538427_10150896916944163_2074165509_n

After that we went to see How to Train Your Dragon II, in the same old, but restored Art Deco-styled theater I used to go to when I was a kid. The movie was excellent, and better than the first. But I teased Jonathan (he chose the movie) that it was not exactly a Father’s Day film. And that’s all the spoiler you’ll get from me.

I hope you had a happy dad’s day. If you have kids, I hope you drank up the experience. I hope you called your dad, or at least had a good memory or two. And I trust you had time and leisure to reflect on it long after the fact. I’d love to hear about it in the comments.

Next up, some more small press publishing news! Thanks for lollygagging around my memories with me. I appreciate it.

10 Comments Add yours

  1. PB Rippey says:

    Oh my, you guys look like you’re brothers.

    Liked by 1 person

    1. Oh, PB, I think I’m falling in love with you.


  2. slpmartin says:

    What a lovely Father’s Day…the making of such memories is indeed a special day.

    Liked by 1 person

    1. It was perfect, even on a Monday. 🙂 Thank you, Charles!


  3. oh, it’s ever so much more fun to read a post such as this one, when you know both the dad and the fabulous young men. here’s to you and here’s to them and here’s to wonderful futures!

    Liked by 1 person

    1. Thank you, my darling. Yes, this was a post mostly for those who know the Dad Poet. 🙂 And I am lucky, ain’t I?


  4. theoccasionalman says:

    Sherlock is pretty awesome, and the rest of the episodes don’t steal their climaxes from The Princess Bride.
    I’ve always been a little behind the times, and my new blog premise (books and movies, not my daily life or current events) gives me the freedom to be as anachronistic as I choose to be. Glad you enjoyed time with your boys. As ever, I hope I have a good relationship with mine when they get to be the age of yours. I’ll let you know in twelve to fifteen years.

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    1. If your kids know you even half as well as I who barely know you know you, they’re gonna love you to pieces.

      And yeah, the first three episodes are good. Not sure I like this portrayal of Moriarty, but then again, Sherlock too is young in this, and it was a surprise that fooled even him.


  5. John says:

    Happy belated Father’s Day to you, my friend. That’s a group of four fine looking men. And, as PB says — you look like brothers. Sounds like a great day … and, thankfully, you managed to fit in a bit of sleep (which, surprisingly) brings the creative juices back. When I’m tired, I can’t seem to think of a thing to write.

    As for being timely … what’s the point? There’s just too many things that happen, that trying to stay timely will just drive you insane, or kill you. Instead of timely, be timeless… that’s much more my style. I try to stay on top of political news, but, as for writing about it… if I happen to have the time, I’ll post something. If not, oh well. Life still goes on, doesn’t it?

    Like you, I retweeted something about Charles Wright (and, as you know), I posted a photo of his “collected later poems” when it arrived in the mail. But, honestly, I had no idea who he was before I read the story in the news. I’ve been reading his poems … they’re …. interesting. They’re not easy, but they’re not unintelligible either. You have to work at them a bit, to get the rhythm right, to put the various images together, but, in the end, it’s worth the bit of effort. (At least from what I’ve read so far.)

    And, as for timely … I revived my PoeticallyVersed blog, since I’ve started the poetry class. I figure spending more time with poetry in general will help me out. There’s a post you should check out … though you may already have seen it. It’s a film version of Ted Kooser’s poem “Pearl”. The film is about sixteen minutes long, but it’s quite lovely.

    But, I digress… I was talking about timely. I have no insights to offer about timely — I’m almost finished reading an anthology of British poetry (post WWII poetry), that was put together in 1971. (I bought a used copy, a 1973 reprint). It’s a new book to me, so I’m quite thrilled, but it’s far from timely. 🙂

    Glad that you are well …

    Liked by 1 person

    1. Timeless. Yes! That’s it. 🙂 Thank you, John. You’ll be happy to know that my schedule is getting easier.


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