You certainly won’t find everything about my adventures in parenting here on this page, but I may add a few tidbits about my boys and some links to their favorite stuff, along with a few links that are important to me on the subject of fatherhood.

They are all grown up now, my youngest having just turned 20 this year. My big brother Keith tells me that this is the whole idea. I sometimes forget that, so pardon my indulgence in sharing the following photos of the best men I’ve ever met. I am so proud of each one of these guys, three very good and kind young men. It’s an honor to be your dad.

Someone told me a while back that fatherhood is an “archaic” word, and I suppose he was trying to broaden my views. Perhaps he thought that I was trying to narrow the definition of a parent, specifically a gay man’s role as a dad. Whatever his intent, being a dad is one of the those things in my life that I really really wanted to be, and Dad is the most important title I have. I am all for kicking the stereotypes to the curb and I’ll be the first to say that families are what we make them. We don’t need prescribed masculine and feminine roles to make good parents, we just need love discipline and commitment. But that does not make fatherhood an out of date word.

18 Comments Add yours

  1. Hey that’s pretty cool sonofwalt. Despite the vitriolic spew on talk radio, I think the majority of straight people in this country recognize that gay men and women can and do make fantastic parents.


    1. SoundEagle says:

      David, SoundEagle concurs with your reasoning here. You are definitely not archaic but quite open-minded and well-equipped to raise a modern family!

      Let’s not strict ourselves by fatherhood and motherhood . . . . Instead, we should just embrace “familyhood”.


  2. sonofwalt says:

    Thanks! I enjoy your blog and I appreciate you comment here. I don’t see gay dads or moms as any better or any worse than straight parents. We are just humans like anyone else, but we have had our unique challenges. It’s nice to share those with others who understand and those who want to understand.

    I’ll be back to visit your blog frequently, EMC.


  3. nectarfizz says:

    If trouble comes in threes you are in BIG TROUBLE!


  4. sonofwalt says:

    Yeah, but it’s a fun bit of trouble to be in.


  5. christasays says:

    I’d say those boys sure lucked out. If every parent embraced the joy and challenges of the “job” as you seem to, just think where we could be! Thanks for being a present, loving dad.


    1. sonofwalt says:

      Wow, you really know how to choke a guy up, don’t you? 🙂 Thank you. That’s the kind of compliment that means the most to me. Thanks for dropping by and making me smile.


  6. sobloggay says:

    I do not know much about poetry sometimes I get it sometimes I don’t, but what I am here to say is thanks for letting others know that being a dad is much more than who you sleep with and it is an inspiration for me to know that you can be gay have children and still be happy despite all the hate.


    1. sonofwalt says:

      What a great comment to read tonight. Thank you! Who you love may be an integral part of who we are, but it is only one of many parts of a person’s life. Funny how people looking at us from the outside seem to forget that. And believe me, I am FAR less interested in what goes on in their bed rooms than they are in mine. haha

      Thanks for stopping in and making me smile!


  7. David, one of my brothers is gay…a few of our best friends from college and beyond are gay. It makes my heart smile soooo wide when I see how more and more gay parents are blogging and writing and sharing their stories. It humanizes and connects people. I really do believe we are all making shifts in our culture! Such blessings to you all, Lisa


    1. Thank you, Sue. I wondered how this would go, combining all these aspects of my life. It goes against the grain of all of the SEO advice I think, but it’s all me. I have enough places in my life where I wear those hats. I don’t want to do that sort of posturing here, especially since it is where I talk about the most important things in my life, my sons and my writing especially. Thank you for your lovely comments.


    2. Hi David, (I also commented in your “bio” part) – it’s Lisa. Yes, I hear you…just doing what you love and honoring what is most important. Looking forward to reading more. You bring some poets back to me…as a mom to two little ones, I don’t read enough of the poetry i used to. thanks so much. Lisa


    3. ah, thank you for that. Hey, I suggest lots of Shel Silverstein and Dr. Suess for the little ones! 🙂


  8. Being the third of my parents’ three sons, I can certainly attest to that!


  9. Jamie Dedes says:

    Fatherhood and motherhood will never go out of fashion. You are right.

    The boys are beautiful.

    Blog on … 🙂


    1. Aw, thank you, Jaime. I really appreciate that


  10. UPNs says:



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